I Am In Love And I Like It That Way

I was in love. I still am. And I prefer to be that way. And, yes, I love my husband. All unmarried girls focusing on their career and living the life they planned need to stop snickering. We married people plan too. Maybe our plans involve different perspectives, complicated procedures and longer time span but we like it that way. We chalk out, cross out and re-chalk our goals every now and then but that doesn't mean we're not living in the moment. Yes, we have shifted our "I" priority to "We" but we have accustomed to it too. You don't have to tut-tut at our living-for-others strategy. We're struggling in our education, we're working hard at our house chores or we are trying for a baby, all these problems are our part of life and we know how to deal with it. You don't have to shove "told you so" attitude to our faces.

I married in love. The moment you tell anyone about this, the next question that throws you off-guard is,

"So how's it turning out to be?",

"Still in love?",

"Is he/she the same guy/girl you knew?"

Why is it that our society is craving for bad news? Or is it just the love-marriage phobia that drives them so nosy? Don't normal arranged marriage couples fight or argue? Don't they get frustrated with their routine lives? Don't they fret when they go out of budget? Doesn't a husband or a wife shout at each other to release their anger? Don't they ever think that their marriage won't last long? Do they ever shed tears hiding from each other? And if the answer to all these questions is yes then why not the love marriages couples can have the same issues? Why is it that when a newly married in-love wife updates a sad status, there are comments asking for reasons and justifications while in other case it's just so normal? On the contrary when lovey-dovey pictures or quotations are posted, the audience just waits for the next big turmoil in their life or simply states, "Let's just give those few months and then we'll see."

Why is it that a love marriage crumbles faster than the arranged one? I wondered to this question for so long and maybe the answer is simple. The people who married out of love tend to come out of love after marriage is because of expectations. You knew the blond-haired diva or the dimpled-face stud in and out. You two were living different lives yet so closely tied together that you thought you knew that person downright. But that's where you're wrong. Unless and until you start living with a person you can never judge his/her character. That same old blondie snores loudly at night. The stud has this crazy narcissist attitude that you tend to find so attractive before marriage. When you really come in contact with the person you then find so many dimensions of his/her character that were unknown or hidden to you. You feel betrayed by the amount of information overload. This is where you start your first fight. The fight that you thought would never surface in your relation. You are so attached to the pre-married life and the person that you find this overwhelming. You start comparing tiny details of their attitude with past; their unrealistic promises, their mushy voice, their mystified eyes and over the top caring nature. You crave for this again. But you don't find it anymore.

Rule number one, stop comparing. Rule number two, start adjusting. Rule number three, don't stop loving! The moment you stop loving is when the world falls apart and with it, your marriage. The love that bonded you together in the first place is the sole reason for your marriage to last longer. So you just can't give up on loving each other. And that's why the people in love are always looked with skeptical eyes. Because the world knows that it's just an emotion. It is you doing to make it a habit. To be in love always. And that's when you'll scare the shit out of people. That's where they'll always be, shrugging, tut-tutting or simply denying. And then you'll know that this is the precise thing you wanted out of life. To be what you always wanted to be. To be loved. And all your problems, struggles and hardships seem trivial to that mere feeling.

Will This Be the Year You Get Married? (The Top Technique We Use to Know)

By Angela Zoile

Q: When will I get married? Will this be the year? Do I know him already... or will I meet him soon? And will this be the ONE love I've been waiting for forever, or will I get my heart broken yet again?

The truth is, as emotional empaths and love intuitive's, we get more questions about love, romance and heartbreak than just about anything else. The fact is, more and more relationships end up badly than ever before... and in my mind, it's because more and more people (especially women) make head based decisions, rather than following their heart.

How so?

There is more pressure in the world today than ever before to be in a relationship. Social media has obliterated our ability to have privacy, and believe it or not... in my own practice, i see more and more people succumbing to the pressure to be in a relationship, simply because everyone else seems to be as well! To make appearances matter. Facebook. Twitter. Instagram. Happy pictures everywhere, right?

And because of this simple truth, women especially made HEAD based relationship decisions, rather than following their heart, waiting and letting the universe unfold the way it wants too... and manifest in your life the way it should.

Want a really GREAT way to activate your own intuition when it comes to your love life?

Write to your future self. Sit down, and write a letter to the "you" that exists in 1 year, or 3 years, or 5 years.

Can you conceptualize who that person is? Does it still feel like YOU? It's amazing how many people look at themselves in the future and find that person is totally unrecognizable, right? You feel like a stranger to YOU!

But, when you tap into your own intuitive understanding of your future self, you start to see how your life is going to unfold... and the karmic connections that are coming your way, the EXACT way the "Universe" has it planned for you.

It may sound crazy if you're skeptical... but I promise, it works.

Each of us already has a karma, and a destiny... and the truth is, you can actively awaken that by tapping into your own inner "psychic' and begin the process of dancing in the direction of your dreams, starting right NOW.

So when people ask me - "Will this the year I get married?"... this is the exact process any true spiritual coach, or intuitive, or emotional, energetic empath will use to see what YOUR future has in store.

The good news is you can do it yourself. Your life is like a book - and you ARE the author, and the architect of everything that has yet to arrive. Opening up your own awareness with simple heart based spiritual exercises is the very BEST way to attract the love of your life into your life right NOW, and to truly wake up your own intuitive wisdom within

Does Your Relationship Need a Re-Boot?

By Jamie R Mather

When your computer starts acting funny or freezes up, the obvious thing to do is re-boot. This allows the system to start fresh and resolve whatever problems are plaguing it. Don't you wish it were that easy to fix relationships?

Alas, since we are not made of silicone chips, there is no magic button to press. But make no mistake-with a little hard work, a romantic re-boot can be achieved!

The signs that you and your partner need a re-boot should be fairly obvious. Beyond the moments of tension that come with any serious relationship, you have a lingering sense that things are not functioning the way they ought to be. Your life together has fallen into a predictable routine, lacking the creative surprises that make things colorful. On a psychic level, you feel like there is a digital hourglass between you (or a rainbow wheel, if you're a mac user), turning over and over as the relationship tries to resolve itself.

Clear the Decks

Have you promised your partner a weekend getaway and haven't delivered? Have the two of you talked about remodeling the kitchen, yet nobody has made a move? Unresolved agreements can stagnate the psychic energy between you, undermining the spirit of togetherness and forward growth. You may not even be consciously aware of it, but empty words linger in the subconscious mind. They take up space and energy, like too many files bogging down a hard drive. Talk to your partner about clearing the decks and fulfilling old promises. With any luck, you will both begin to feel inspired as new energy rushes in.

Send Meaningful Messages

After you've been together awhile, it's easy to start seeing each other as just another fixture of daily life. The reality is that your unique chemistry is a precious, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. The best way to cherish it is to do little things on a constant basis. A little gift, a bouquet of flowers, or a home-cooked meal can go a long way. Massage your partner's shoulders without being asked. When it comes to text messages and emails, convey joy and excitement. Always be conscious of the messages you send. The vibe between you will rise up to a higher frequency.

Explore the Unexplored

Have you ever heard that the people who live longest tend to keep working, learning, and challenging themselves into old age? Well, the relationships that live longest are the same way! Remember the feeling of excitement when you first got together? It came from the two of you exploring the unknown together, charting new territory. Once the initial force of romance tapers down, it's essential to find new ground. Take a Tarot class, ride the highest roller-coaster, try out for a theatrical production-together. The important thing is that you ditch the well-trodden paths, grab a figurative machete and head for deep jungle. That's how you discover new strength within yourselves, both as individuals and as a couple.

Get Physical

The amazing thing about physical exercise-whether sweating it out at the gym or finding your inner balance with yoga-is the far-reaching benefits it provides. It's not just about burning calories, but creating flow and movement within yourself. Feeling better about your body creates more attraction between you and your partner. A good physical routine releases powerful pheromones and neurochemicals, refreshing your relationship on a deep psychic level. Get moving, encourage your partner to do the same, and feel the results! You'll be laughing and smiling together in no time. Remember-relationships are like two rivers meeting. When each of you flows individually, you flow more strongly together.

Get Spiritual

A stalled romance is often the result of two partners failing to meet each other on a spiritual level. The best relationships are rooted in a spiritual connection. When the two of you are talking about spiritual development, sharing your deepest emotions, and encouraging one another in your spiritual interests-whether it's astrology, shamanism, energy healing or any other branch of spirituality-then every other aspect of your connection (especially sex!) will truly take off.